Dreaming In Satin
Ten Sanity Saving Tips for Instagram Moms
As moms it is our responsibility and privilege to love our babies unconditionally and deal (somewhat graciously) with all the other cards we are dealt with: Our home, work, chores, our partner, family responsibilities.. And if you’re reading this, you’ve probably added Instagram to the checklist.
On most days, my heart is full and overflows with love, empathy and creativity. I feel inspired to create, post and engage on social media. I have a ton of ideas for shoots, I’m caught up with emails and the juggle between my creative work on instagram/blog and my family life run in synchrony.
But then there are those days when the well runs dry. Days when you feel depleted of all your creativity and motivation and your patience is so thin you’re one toddler tantrum away from loosing your sh*t. If this sounds familiar, you’re not alone. But the question is, Where do we turn to?
I’ve put together a list of 10 well- filling, sanity- saving tips for all those creative mamas out there who share their hearts and creativity with the world. These tips have helped me get back on track when I loose perspective of my purpose online or when I’m feeling overwhelmed.
1. Practice calmness & put things in perspective
When you are sucked into the numbers game that is Instagram and Mr. Algorithm, the stats and metrics can drive you crazy. Especially when work is involved. In moments like these it’s so important to “create perspective”. Do these numbers define your worth as a person? The answer is, No. In my life, calm people are those who can bring perspective to difficult situations. We all experience anxiety to an extend. The key is to be aware of it when it comes up, put things into perspective and let go of the things we have no control over. Brené Brown describes calm as: creating perspective and mindfulness while managing emotional reactivity. Letting go of control and the need of certainty is something I work on everyday.
2. Practice gratitude & joy
” It is not joy that makes us grateful; it is gratitude that makes us joyful.” – David Steindl -Rast. Instagram can be a source of stress if we are constantly comparing ourselves to other people’s highlight reel. In times like these we need to focus on what is right in front of us and train our mind to be grateful for everything we have. These emotions are quick to go but all that matters is that we focus on the positive. The more grateful we are for the little things, the more joy we bring into our lives.
3. Play and rest
Taking time away from social allows for play and rest. In my case, most of my ideas and creativity occur away from my phone. When I allow myself to reset regularly to play with my kids or just relax, I get the clarity I need to get back to work with a positive go getter- mindset. “Rest is where you grow and recover, so that you’re empowered to get better and better at your work.” – Benjamin Hardy. So there you have it. Play. Unplug. Recharge. Reset.
4. Make time for music and dancing
Is there anything more freeing that getting lost in our favourite song or busting out moves to a catchy song? Music and dancing make us happy, reduce stress and get us moving. Brené Brown’s guide to whole-hearted living includes the importance of cultivating laughter, song and dance and letting go of being cool and always in control. I credit my sanity as a stay-at-home working mom to our home dance parties and sing-alongs.
5. Cultivate “togetherness”
Instagram connections are wonderful but feeling truly connected with family and friends is priceless. The power of presence and really connecting even for small periods of time is an instant mood booster and just what we need to shift our focus on what truly matters. Social media will always be there but our moments with our babies are fleeting. A cozy candle light dinner conversation with your people at the table is worth more than all the likes in the world, at least in my books.
6. Read enriching books
Listen to or read uplifting content. I find that the best antidote to boredom, negativity and gossip is to read as often as possible. I listen to audiobooks while I cook, clean and do the laundry and it makes chores feel like a breeze. “Books are the quietest and most constant of friends; they are the most accessible and wisest of counselors, and the most patient of teachers.” ― Charles W. Eliot
7. Hug your kids
Hugs are free and so powerful. It’s been mentioned everywhere that hugs help alleviate stress, anxiety, and depression. In a world where connections are achieved by double tapping and thumb scrolling, real life hugs feel like a warm blanket you never knew you needed. I hug my kids when I’m happy, angry or stressed. I hug them right after telling them to give mommy another minute because she’s posting a picture. I hug them when they misbehave and cross limits. The healing powers of a tight hug should not be underestimated.
8. Immerse yourself in meaningful work
Motherhood is hard and time consuming, but something about engaging in meaningful work and developing a passion can truly turn exhausting days into exceptionally great days. We all have areas that we naturally excel in, abilities that come easily to us. Get familiar with them and see which ones bring a sense of meaning and fulfillment.
9. Get your body moving
This may seem like an obvious one but I downplayed the importance of daily physical activity for a long time. Not surprisingly other areas in my life suffered. I had low energy, I was moody and my eating habits were not the best. Exercising in the early morning hours has helped me gain clarity and momentum to start my day on the right foot. Whatever your preference, get your body moving!
10. Embrace your uniqueness
“To be yourself in a world that is constantly trying to make you something else is the greatest accomplishment.”― Ralph Waldo Emerson. Fitting in is overrated and boring. 3 years ago when I started Instagram it was all about the perfectly white walls and avocados toasts. I wondered how in the world I’d be able to keep up with an “all white theme” when I knew I was a colour person. It took me longer that it should have to say “heck that” I’m taking pictures wherever I feel like taking pictures. This freedom comes with knowing who you are and what you like, despite what others may think. Some will love it. Some will hate it. But at least you did it your way.
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